Have you ever been in a situation where the fellow in your midst just wasn’t stepping up to the plate? It seemed you had to take on a new persona, whether that would be the demure damsel or the bow-toting amazon, to get their cooperation, albeit given reluctantly and churlishly, or you had to take matters into your own hands, which ultimately was what he wanted to happen anyway. You really can’t count on this person because their behavior is so unpredictable, unreliable and is a source of stress and disappointment.
How does his behavior look?
He’s lazy. Finding a job is not a priority with him. Keeping one even less so. He can be disrespectful, especially toward women. Do his share around the house? Not gonna happen. He is not going to inconvenience himself. So what if you need him to take the check to the light company before they shut you off. He had ‘business’ to take care of — he had to get with his ‘boy’ and talk about something – nothing really – nothing more important than that light bill. But let him not get his sex, or some money (from the woman in his life), or freedom to do what he wants when he wants, and he will lay down in the floor and throw a tantrum.
Who does that?
A two year old.
Where did that behavior originate? This is somebody’s son.
I believe most responsible parents will attempt to teach their child (children) about fair play, cooperation, and responsibility. Situations may arise that say otherwise, but for the most part, most parents do have good intentions. I believe that. I need to. Then along comes a child exhibiting behaviors that make him unrecognizable. You never imagined he could show such a disdain for others and be so content to let others pull his weight.
Ladies, whether this is your son or your man, you are dealing with a male so mentally and emotionally immature that you will be forever ‘raising him.’