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Pick a question and write your opinion in the comment box. The most thoughtful response will be posted on the site.
1. Is cheating on your significant other ever justified?
2. Do you think the Health Care Bill will hurt Obama in the next election? Why?
3. Are you looking for employment? How’s it going?
4. What’s your opinion about interracial dating?
5. Which is best? Asking for permission to do something, or asking for forgiveness after you do it?
6. I feel really strongly about “fill in the blank”.
7. I don’t care what others are doing, I will never…
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Lets talk about the teacher who beat her student.
What is really going on in the classroom.
Is Cheating on Your Significant Other Ever Justified?
Interesting subject! “Significant other” indicates that marriage vows have not yet been taken. In this case, there is always an out rendering cheating unnecessary. End the relationship. While a form of commitment has been entered into, it is not binding nor is it worth the drama it could cause if discovered. Cheating on a spouse, however, is very different.
When holy vows are taken, before God and others, you have made a sacred promise. Yes, the marriage may be unfulfilling and the grass may look greener on the other side, but avoid looking to satisfy your needs in all the wrong places. Temptations abound and can cause one to think that “no one will ever know…it’s just between the two of us.” Well, the question to ask yourself before taking the plunge is, “What if my spouse (or children) found out.” How would they feel about this betrayal? Could it ever really be overcome?
If there is abuse in the marriage, infidelity on the part of your spouse, money problems, etc., there is a legal and moral answer that will address the dilemma. The answer may cause other problems, but you must weigh the good against the bad to decide what is best for you and your family. Continue to be the subject of abuse (I think not!); risk disease or mental abuse from a spouse who cheats on you (again…NOT!); work out…together…your financial woes. In any case, it will not be easy. Honestly look at your spouse and see him or her as disabled. Is this someone you are willing to feed, clothe, change diapers, etc. If the question is reversed and you are disabled, will your spouse be willing to take care of you in this way? Then…take a look at your “lover” and determine if he or she would be willing to do the same for you. Get the picture? Is it worth the risk? Of course, if you were wealthy and could pay someone to take care of this person, your response might be different. But how many of us find ourselves in this position? Ultimately, when choosing someone as your life partner, you have to look at the down side to determine if this is the right person for you.
Remember…the marriage vows say, “…for better or for worse, for richer or poorer, until death do us part.” Sobering, isn’t it.